Singletude

I really love to travel. LOVE it...I would go anywhere with just about anyone...Given that I could get the time off of work and had the money. (if you're paying though, who cares about the other two)
Being single has always prevented me from lots of different kinds of adventures. Its a lot harder to find and coordinate the schedules of a group of friends or other people's families...especially in the last minute stuff I find interesting. Looking forward to trips planned in advance is awesome, but I much prefer the spur of the moment adventures.

I realized yesterday that I should really just go anyway. Who is better company to me that me?! Who knows me better than me?! So I've decided, I'm taking myself on adventures anywhere I see fit.

Well that was easy wasnt it?

Ok, so there is more to striking off on a new singletude adventure than just declaring. You have to be smart, and plan well, and think about your own safety, and then of course, the most difficult requirement, Be comfortable going alone.

Most things on this planet you can do by yourself and no one will care. No one will notice and no one will think anything. But there are a dreaded few things that are just not ok...

For example, how about going to the movies alone...and enjoying it...
or even worse...eating dinner in a nice restaurant alone?!?

I could go on for days telling you all kinds of things that its not socially acceptable to do alone...but why?! Because yesterday I decided that I dont care what you folks think...Ima do it anyway.

My plan is to eventually do an entire several day vacation by myself to somewhere i've always wanted to go...I havent decided the details yet, but i have some things I have to accomplish first.

So here's my list:
1. go to the movies alone.
2. try one new thing I've never done....alone.
3. Do something that makes me nervous...alone.
4. Eat dinner on a weekend at a nice restaurant...alone

Once I've done these four things, then I'll be able to put them all together and turn them into a wild week with jiggs.

Dont worry friends, It's not that I dont love you, that I dont want to experience great adventures with you...cuz I still will. Its just that...well...I'm pretty fun...and I'm going to treat myself to the adventures I want to have without you. :)

Comments

Dawn (Mama of Mya and Meeko) said…
You can do it!

It's easy once you have done it one time. I have done all 4 of those items listed, alone and many times.

After 25 I decided that there was no need to fret about being "alone". I wanted to do stuff, there was no one around so I just did it! Went to the restaurants I had always wanted to go to but no one would take me or no one was around to take me. Tried new foods when no one else would. Moved to cities that I didn't know a soul. Went to the movies (mostly foreign) that no one would go with me to because they hated subtitles. Went on a mission trip when no one understood why I wanted to go and only a couple people supported me on.
It's easy once you take the first step. Then you find yourself doing all sorts of things "alone". The great thing about stepping out and doing stuff by myself is that along the way, I met the best friends of my life.
Do it!
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